does it hurt to lose your virginity? The first time you have vaginal sex, it may hurt, or feel good, or both. There might be pain and bleeding the first time a penis or fingers go into your vagina, but it doesnt happen to everybody. Youre thinking about having sex for the first time and youre wondering everything from whether it will hurt to how you know youre ready. Some women are so frightened about having sex for the first time because theyre worried about pregnancy, worried its going to hurt, or just scared because its a new experience, so they may. Feeling pain during sex could be a sign that something is wrong. Here, experts explain the possible causes of painful sex and the solutions that can help. Attention, men except for consensual bdsm, sex should never hurt. Some men feel so eager to plunge into intercourse that they dismiss womens complaints of pain. Intercourse pain, or dyspareunia, can cause problems in a couples sexual relationship. In addition to the physically painful sex, there is also the possibility of negative emotional effects. While anal sex isnt really taboo anymore, like any other sex act, there are still lots of misconceptions out there about it. if you get pain during or after sex, your body may be trying to tell you something is wrong, so dont ignore it. See your gp or go to a sexual health (genitourinary medicine, or gum) clinic. You may find talking about sex embarrassing, but remember that doctors are used to dealing with problems like.