Say something like, when you grab a big bunch of my hair and pull me in to suck on you, it makes me so horny. The part thats rough right now is that he is trying to be more dominant, but doesnt really know how. My eardrums burst when you shoved me into the headboard over and over 20 minutes ago. When we first had sex he pulled my hair and since i didnt say anything he kept doing it. I started liking it and he went further and started biting and spanking me while we had sex. He also puts his hands over my mouth and holds my arms down sometimes, almost like a rape fantasy for him. I dont want to be hurt badly (ive had black eyes and bruised ribs from my sons dad and that was a little too much) but i do want him to pull my hair, choke me, slap me around. At the same time, i really want to shed my insecurity about her getting freaky on the low with our old friend but not me. I recently formally separated from my husband of about seven years. why do i want to be forced to have sex (rough of course) with my husband? Im kinda embarrassed to ask him to do this, but i really want to feel what its like to have him over power me. We play fight sometimes and when he holds me down all i can think about is, how much i wish he would just do me.